Little Pieces of Hope is a 2021 book about happy-making things in a difficult world

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Todd Doughty’s joyous book from 2021 is titled Little Pieces of Hope: Happy-Making Things in a Difficult World. There is a preview at Google Books. Most of his one-page lists are of Happy-Making Things in a Difficult World.

 

One on page 7 (with links added) is:

 

“Happy-making things in a difficult world:

 

Making friends with strangers while waiting in a long line. Dolly Parton in general, but specifically her bluegrass version of ‘I Get a Kick Out of You.’ A very small bouquet of lilies-of-the-valley. The grace of Simone Biles. Your favorite old T-shirt. Le Creuset. The Meryl Streep parts of the film Julie & Julia. A really good mixtape (or playlist, for you young ones) made for you by someone else. Vintage photos of 1940s NYC.

 

Driving north on the Pacific Coast Highway on a cloudless day when the view is astounding. The smell of a cut lemon. The entire score of Guys and Dolls. That day when you realize you’re finally over someone who dumped you. Grandmothers. Plaid shirts on a crisp fall day. Red velvet cake. Adriana Trigiani’s novel Lucia, Lucia. Someone who says, ‘You were great!’ Someone who says, ‘You look great!’ Someone who says, ‘Don’t do it!’

 

A vividly bright yellow parakeet. The Chrysler Building on a rainy night. David Sedaris’s audio recording of Santaland Diaries. A good run, physically or metaphorically, Leaving a party at precisely the moment when you are having the most fun. Inge Morath’s 1957 photo of that llama in a cab (Google it), A Llama in Times Square. 

 

Four jigsaw puzzle pieces came from OpenClipArt.

 

 

Jump and Find Joy is an uplifting 2025 book by Hoda Kotb about embracing change

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hoda Kotb was co-anchor of the morning Today show on NBC News from 2018 to 2025. In 2025 she published an uplifting book titled Jump and Find Joy: Embracing change in every season of life. There is a preview at Google Books. This book is divided into five parts, each with chapters starting on the pages shown:

 

Part 1: A Jumping-off Point  1

  Moved to Make a Change  3

  Your First Leap Won’t Be Your Last  14

  Think Before You Jump  20

  It May Not Be Broken, But It May Not Be Working  26

  Don’t Be Afraid to Change Your Story  37

  Helpful Tips and Tools  44

 

Part 2: Leap of Faith  47

  A Second Chance to Make a First Impression  49

  I Never Want to Wonder What If?  57

  Surrendering Control  71

  Those Four Fabulous Words  75

  Don’t Hog Your Journey  82

  Baring It All  91

  Letting Love In  98

  Making Space for a Leap of Faith  102

  Helpful Tips and Tools  113

 

Part 3: Hop, Skip, and a Jump  115

  Today’s the Day  119

  Sink or Swim  123

  Sweet Soul 129

  Finally, Yes  132

  Take a Deep Breath  141

  Face-to-Face  147

  Share the Load  150

  Forward  159

  Helpful Tips and Tools  165

 

Part 4: Jump in with Both Feet  167

  Finding My Spark

  Finding Time for Transformation  180

  The Pandemic Push  196

  Lead with Love  199

  Get Growing  209

  Helpful Tips and Tools  220

 

Part 5: Jump for Joy  221

  Room to Grow  223

  Turning Sixty and Turning the Page  237

  Breaking Up Is Hard to Do  247

  With Love  253

  My Next Big Jump  255

  The Day After Today  262

  Walking the Walk  265

  Helpful Tips and Tools  268

 

Conclusion  271

 

There are a total of 32 biographical Jumpstarts, including Anne Lamott, Bette Midler, Chip Conley, Ally Love, Thomas Rhett, Mel Robbins, etc. She has three Helpful Tips and Tools on page 113:

 

 “ 1] Treat books I’ve already read – and loved – as a touchstone when I’m feeling a bit lost. The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo is one of my favorites. It includes bite-size nuggets of wisdom you can read each morning to set a positive tone for the day. I find that a good read offers another voice, which is helpful when the one in our head is driving us crazy. (If I need some title ideas, I’ll search the go-to books of people I admire. What are they reading?)

 

 2] I’ve discovered the power of sixty minutes. When my brain is spinning and my body is dragging, I’ll shut myself down for an hour. I close the door to my office, turn off all of my devices, and just sit quietly. I need to recharge! Sometimes it takes the entire time just to feel an ounce of peace, but I never regret it. Carving out that time for yourself is the juice you need to keep pushing forward.

 

 3] Get curious. As you move toward the new direction you’ve chosen listen and learn. What can the people who’ve already arrived where you want to be teach you? I love to explore podcasts, TED talks, and commencement addresses for the motivation and information I need. Just search the curated list of topics, for example, ‘Find me a TED talk about opening a bakery.’ So fun!”

 

And there are more Helpful Tips and Tools on page 165:

 

“Even little hops and jumps require encouragement. Go, me! I love listening to music for so many reasons, but I’ll always turn to it when I need a quick boost. After all, a song is only about three minutes long! Here are some of my favorites.

(How about making a playlist just for jumping? ‘Songs That Launch Me Higher.’)

 

1]  ‘So Will I’ – Ben Platt

I find this song so reassuring and uplifting. It reminds us that no matter what happens, the world and you are going to be just fine.

 

2]  ‘May You Find a Light’ – The Brilliance

The music in this song is so ethereal and soothing, and the lyrics transport you to a place where you feel safe and grounded. You’re home.

 

3]  ‘Rainbow Connection’ – Paul Williams and Kenneth Ascher

What’s more comforting than Kermit the Frog singing? His message is for dreamers and lovers and anyone with hope in their heart: wishes do come true when we believe in ourselves! (I love this song , too, because anything with rainbows reminds me of my Hopey.)”

 

An image of a girl jumping for joy was adapted from OpenClipArt.

 

 

A surprising discussion about why members of SEAL teams need to learn public speaking

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

At the Boise Public Library I found a 2025 book by Mike Hayes titled Mission Driven: The path to a life of purpose. Mike was former commanding officer of SEAL Team Two. There is a preview at Google Books. Chapter Three discusses The Meta-Skills That Matter, which are:

 

META-SKILL 1: Understand and Create Value

META-SKILL 2: Know How to Influence Others

META-SKILL 3: Never Stop Learning

 

His discussion of how to influence others (starting on page 81) describes how important public speaking is:

 

“Influencing others is a vitally important meta-skill to have. When you can influence the behavior of the people around you, you become someone who can get things done for the mission you’re pursuing, organizational or personal. When you understand what motivates someone, you can drive their behavior to help you achieve your goals.

 

.…Embedded within this lesson are three points. One is about political capital. When you understand what motivates someone, you can choose what to ask of them, and how to ask it. You can get people to want to do something rather than having to convince them or, if you’re in a position to do so, to force them.

 

.…The second point is about challenging the status quo. When you understand what drives people, you can push for change in constructive ways.

 

….The third point here is about communication. Communication is about more than the concrete outputs we typically associate with people who work in a communications role – website content, white papers, etc. Communication is about being able to effectively transmit your thinking process. And it’s a critical meta-skill no matter your job. To wit: If asked to list the kinds of skills a SEAL needs, most people would land on a few predictable answers – strength, agility, calm inrensity, focus. Which is why my teams were sometimes confused when I’d sit them down on a day when the weather was keeping us from training and I’d give each SEAL a topic. ‘Take the next two minutes to prepare a two-minute speech on this subject,’ I’d say.

 

‘Public speaking?’ they would ask, incredulous. Why did they need to work on public speaking? It made no sense to some of them, until I explained it on two levels. First, at some point all SEALs will have to represent themselves and their unit to people in the community or to leaders we might have to interact with. Just like they needed negotiation skills, they also needed to be able to express themselves well, in case I or another leader was unavailable and the responsibility fell to them. Second, becoming a better speaker is really about becoming a better thinker, organizing thoughts and defining goals – and that is a skill that transfers to everything we do.

 

The best communicators have a tightness of thought. They set goals at the beginning of a meeting, to put everyone on the same page. They stay focused on the mission. They avoid needlessly wasting other people’s time. We’ve all been in rooms where someone starts vacuuming up attention needlessly by asking a question that either never gets to the question mark or is being asked for a self-indulgent purpose rather than focused on the end value. This is a communication problem (also sometimes an attitude problem, another meta-skill we’ll look at in a moment), and if you are the one being stared at by a bunch of people who feel like you’re wasting their time, you’re doing something wrong. There’s an age-old saying in the SEAL Teams, where platoons are made up of sixteen men: ‘When fifteen men are wrong, look in the mirror.’ It may well be that you are failing to influence in a positive, effective way.

 

In my public speaking exercise, all the SEALs listening gave feedback to the presenters, just like we did after missions. The feedback was another way to make us all better.”  

 

This book has two sections, on The Long Game and The Short Game, with the following chapters and starting page numbers:

 

THE LONG GAME

CHAPTER 1: Who, Not What You Want to Be  15

CHAPTER 2: Defining Success  43

CHAPTER 3: The Meta-Skills That Matter  69

CHAPTER 4: Helping Others Helps Us More  97

CHAPTER 5: Plans Will Always Change  119  

 

THE SHORT GAME

CHAPTER 6: Getting Comfortable Making Decisions  143

CHAPTER 7: Mission Driven in the Ways We Spend Our Time  161

CHAPTER 8: Mission Driven in Our Relationships  189

CHAPTER 9: Mission Driven through the Stages of Life  207

CHAPTER 10: Mission Driven to Change the World  221

 

The insignia for SEAL TEAM 2 came from Wikimedia Commons.

 

 

A new book by Jason VanRuler about discovering your communication type

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Back on February 4, 2020 I blogged about how The Toastmasters Pathways Level 2 project on Understanding Your Communication Style says there are four communication styles. Where did they come from?

 

At my friendly, local Ada Community Library I found and am reading a useful 2026 book by Jason VanRuler titled Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 paths to deeper connections and stronger relationships. He asserts that there are five different types (as shown above), described by the acronym of PATHS: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, Spark. There is a brief preview just through page 17 at Google Books.

 

PART 1 has the following eight chapters (and starting page numbers):

 

1] PATHS Overview                03

    Discover Your Type        15

2] Peacemaker                       21

3] Advocate                             31

4] Thinker                                41

5] Harbor                                 51

6] Spark                                    59

7] Attachments and PATHS  67

8] The PATHS Effect               79

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Information about the five types is presented in those separate ~ten-page chapters. I have summarized them via a series of tables. Two-sentence summaries for those five types are shown above.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Four-sentence descriptions of the communication patterns for those five types also are shown above.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And three-sentence descriptions of the Strengths and Challenges for those five types are shown above.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Also, one-sentence descriptions of the Core Fears for those five types are shown above.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And finally, how those five communication types are wired relative to the Big Five and the nine Enneagrams are shown above. Jason’s types are different from the Big Five personality traits of Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Neuroticism, and Openness. 

 

PART 2 is about applications and has the following eight chapters (and starting page numbers):

 

 9] Off-Ramps to Communication         087

10] On-Ramps to Communication          103

11] Conflict                                                  117

12] Saying Hard Things                              131

13] Practicing Communication                147

14] Responding to Hard Things               159

15] Communicating with the                   169

16] Uncommunicative                 

17] Special Circumstances                        181

18] Using the PATHS framework             195

      Conclusion                                             203

 

Jason has a 46-minute Typology Podcast on June 4, 2026 titled The Way You Communicate Is Costing You Connection | Jason VanRuler.

 

The pentagram was adapted from OpenClipArt.

 

 

The academic plagiarism saga of Jason Arday

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Wikipedia page says that Jason Arday was appointed as a professor of Sociology of Education at Cambridge University in March 2023. In April 2026 he gave a keynote speech at the seventy-fifth anniversary conference of the British Sociological Association that was titled Wanted Dead or Alive: The Playbook. It was discussed in an article by Lanre Bakare at The Guardian on August 1, 2026 titled Playbooks, plagiarism and a pig’s head: new claims surrounding a star Cambridge professor. That article described that Arday had plagiarized his 2015 PhD thesis from one six years earlier by Paula Zwozdiak-Myers.

 

A second article by Caitlin Doherty at BBC News on August 5, 2026 is titled Cambridge professor at centre of plagiarism row resigns. A third article by Danica Kirka at the Associated Press [The Hill] on August 6, 2026 is titled Youngest Black professor at Cambridge resigns as university investigates allegations of plagiarism.

 

His memoir Great and Unfortunate Things just was published. Yet another article by Rikki Schlott at the New York Post on August 10, 2026 is titled Plagiarist prof Jason Arday’s life story is published tomorrow, and it gets more unbelievable by the page.

 

I first saw the professor mentioned in still another article by Edzard Ernst on August 10, 2026 titled The Jason Arday saga – a “vile campaign to undermine his credibility”???.

 

The grasping hand image came from Wikimedia Commons.  

 

 

Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There is a wonderful 2018 book by the designer Ingrid Fetell Lee titled Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness. A preview is at Google Books. And there is an excerpt from the introduction. The ten chapters, a JOYFUL TOOLKIT and their starting pages are titled and numbered as follows:

 

Energy                       13

Abundance                42

Freedom                    73

Harmony                  103

Play                          134

Surprise                   164

Transcendence       189

Magic                       217

Celebration             245

Renewal                  271

JOYFUL TOOLKIT  299

 

Chapter 6, Surprise begins:

 

“I sat near the head of a boardroom table in a towering office building in Sydney, my heart fluttering inside my chest. The table seemed to stretch a mile from end to end. All along its edges sat the directors of business units, division heads, and people whose titles start with the letter C. Three weeks earlier, full of bravery and blind optimism of a twenty-four-year-old who had just moved to the opposite side of the world by herself, I had talked my way into a trial run as a brand consultant, a job I had never dine before. I had worked nonstop since then on a brand analysis for the client’s new business, expecting that my boss would be the one presenting it. But a few days before the meeting, my boss told me he believed that the people who did the work should speak for it and that, despite my lack of experience, he wanted me to give the presentation. So there I was, pale faced and shaky, awaiting the calamity that I was certain would follow as soon as I opened my mouth.

 

As the last few attended straggled in, I tried closing my eyes and taking deep breaths, but as I did so, memories of my previous misadventures in public speaking rose to the surface, and I began to feel even more panicked. I snapped my eyes open and looked down at my feet. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed a burst of color. A pair of rainbow-striped socks peeked out from under a charcoal-gray pant leg. They seemed so incongruous I wanted to laugh out loud. I looked up at the wearer. It was the imposing, no-nonsense head of the digital business. His eyes followed my gaze to the socks. Then he looked back up, smiled and winked. A moment later I heard my boss bring the meeting to order and call on me to begin the presentation.

 

Joy has a way of showing up when we least expect it. As we move through the stream of daily life, tiny moments can capture our attention and turn our thoughts in a joyful direction. These moments can be especially powerful in times of stress or sadness. My encounter with the rainbow socks didn’t magically transform me into a brilliant presenter, but it did something else that was helpful in that moment: it interrupted my anxious inner monologue, turning my attention from the highlights reel of my past failures to the incredible opportunity I had before me to share my work with an eager audience. It pulled me back into the room and widened my perspective. Suddenly, I found myself wondering what else might not be as it seemed. Maybe hiding inside all those power suits were other warm or funny people. Maybe my boss wouldn’t have given me such a big client if he didn’t think I was capable of handling it. Maybe I could do this after all. I can’t say I wasn’t nervous as I stood in front of that room. In fact, I clutched a water glass for the entire two-hour presentation so tightly my boss later said he could see my white knuckles. But despite my jitters, there were moments when I had to admit to myself that I was actually having fun. In the end I did well enough to turn my trial run into a full-time job and gained more opportunities to practice speaking my mind in public.”

 

The JOYFUL TOOLKIT has a JOYFINDING WORKSHEET on page 302 that has the following questions to think about:

 

PLACES

Where do I feel most joyful?

What is joyful about these places?

What aesthetics define these places?

 

PEOPLE

Who are the most joyful people I know?

What is joyful about these people?

What aesthetics do these people embody?

 

THINGS

What are the most joyful objects in my house?

What is joyful about these things?

What aesthetics do these things exhibit?

 

ACTIVITIES

What activities bring me the most joy?

What is joyful about these activities?

What aesthetics are present in these activities?

 

And The JOYFUL TOOLKIT has a parallel Killjoys Worksheet on page 304 which has the following questions to think about (but none for PEOPLE):

 

PLACES

Where do I feel least joyful?

What about these places kills my joy?

 

THINGS

What are the least joyful objects in my house?

What about these things kills my joy?

 

ACTIVITIES

What activities bring me the least joy?

What about these activities kills my joy?

 

There is a 2 page pdf Joyspotter’s Guide at The Aesthetics of Joy.

 

Ingrid has a 14-minute TED talk on June 11, 2018 titled Where Joy Hides and How to Find It | Ingrid Fetell Lee | TED. A second 19-minute TED interview by Chris Duffy on September 3, 2025 is titled How to Be More Joyful (W/ Ingrid Fetell Lee) | How to Be a Better Human | TED.

 

A cropped version of Dirck Hals Joyful Gathering painting came from Wikimedia Commons.

 

 

How to become smart according to a Pearls Before Swine comic

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stephan Pastis’s Pearls Before Swine comic strip has a running gag with a gray donkey called the  Great Wise Ass who sits atop a hill and dispenses sage advice. His July 11, 2026 comic had this dialogue:

 

Pig:                       Oh, Great Wise Ass, how does one 

                              become smart?

 

Great Wise Ass: The key is to read, read, read, read, read.

                              Do you do that?

 

Pig:                       Does watching Instagram videos count?

 

Pig (to Rat):         Turns out it doesn’t count.

 

On July 6, 2024 I blogged about The magic of reading books – stories told by librarians and booksellers. Near the end of that post I had said:

 

“Back in high school I found a life-changing little book by George Polya titled How to Solve It: a system of thinking which can help you solve any problem. It gave me a whole new intellectual toolbox – which I used in my careers in applied research and engineering consulting.”  

 

My image shows the shelf with public speaking books at the downtown Boise Public Library.

 

 

Full-body pauses are a key to charisma

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have been skimming through a 2022 book by Zoe Chance titled Influence Is Your Superpower: The science of winning hearts, sparking change, and making good things happen. There is a preview at Google Books. Her passage starting on page 86 about full-body pauses being a key to charisma says that:

 

“Full-body pauses – moments when you’re not walking, fidgeting, or making any dramatic hand movements, but you are breathing easily, your hands comfortably by your side – are especially helpful. Not just during your presentation but also before and after. This key to charisma is so simple that almost no one teaches or practices it, yet it works for speakers and performers of all kinds.

 

Here are some opportunities for a full-body pause in a formal talk or performance situation.

 

When someone else is speaking or performing, you pause with your whole body and focus your attention on them. Maybe an audience member is asking a question. Maybe a junior employee is speaking up at the meeting. Maybe your bandmate is playing a solo. Whoever should have the audience’s attention should have your attention too. You’ll be tempted to look around at other people, or look down or away. If you do, you’re fracturing the group’s attention, and fractured attention is harder to collect when it’s your turn to speak. When it’s someone else’s turn to be charismatic, don’t distract others or let yourself get distracted.

 

When it’s your turn to speak or perform, thank the person introducing you, if there is one, then shift your focus to the audience. Take a full-body pause for one complete breath, smile, and you’ll have the audience’s full attention when you begin. When you’re on a panel or in an informal meeting, the pause needn’t be so obvious, but taking that movement to shift your attention will catch theirs. Now all eyes are on you.

 

When you finish your turn in the spotlight, take a moment to thank the audience before you leave. If there is applause, pause to bask in it for at least one breath, letting the audience’s attention rest fully on you. You have been focused on everyone else, charisma blazing, and they felt it. Now, humbly and gratefully, you receive. We tend to imagine that rushing offstage shows humility, but it conveys a tacit apology – I’m sorry I wasted your time. Instead, take a moment to appreciate your audience with a pause that says, Thank you for your time. I’m grateful for it, and I enjoyed being with you, too. You might nod, bow, put a hand to your chest, or even blow a kiss if you’re that kind of person and it’s that kind of event.”

 

The car key image was adapted from one at OpenClipArt.

 

 

Between the Listening and the Telling of Stories

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have been skimming a 2022 book about storytelling by Mark Yaconelli titled Between the Listening and the Telling: How stories can save us. Google Books has a preview through page 21. There is a 29-second video at Hearth Community on August 2, 2022 titled Storytelling is being human together with this description:

 

“Storytelling is being human together. We tell stories to savor the pleasure of living. We share stories to help one another remember who we are and what matters. We tell stories to weave our lives together. We tell stories to keep our souls intact when suffering overtakes us. This is story as medicine. This is how story can save us.”   

 

Twelve chapters and three interludes in the book are titled:

 

A Place the Soul Once Knew

Confession

The Catacombs

Coming-Out Parade

Pure Medicine

Interlude: Clara

The Hearth

Storycatcher

Undocumented Stories

Tragedy

Interlude: Shoes

The Apocalypse

Sacred Stories

Interlude: The Faun

Home

There is an excerpt on June 28, 2022 at Broadleaf Books titled The Healing Power of Stories, taken from page 15 of Chapter 2: Confession. Another excerpt on September 5, 2023 at Thriving in Ministry titled ‘Between the Listening and the Telling: How Stories Can Save Us' that comes on page 150 from Chapter 11: Sacred Stories.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And a striking excerpt on page 93 from Chapter 7: Storycatcher says that:

 

“One night in an Irish pub, over dinner with writer Brian Doyle, I talked about my newly discovered work, drawing stories forth from people and towns and organizations. ‘You’re a seanachie,’ he declared. Seanachie, he explained, is a Gaelic word meaning ‘storycatcher.’ In traditional Irish towns, a storycatcher’s role was to unearth, gather, and share stories to strengthen and bind people to one another.

 

After Brian’s declaration, I began to claim my vocation as a storycatcher. I learned to ask questions that drew forth memories: A scared place from childhood. A memorable winter. A sacrifice. A missed opportunity. I learned to listen for patterns, for change, for the revealing heat of emotion. I read books by writers, oral historians, and professional storytellers and noted how they went about their craft. Over time I learned the warp and woof of stories, how they gather, arch, spiral, and spring forth. I learned how to root up the deepest stories from people and communities, how to catch their scent, how to ferret them out from the tangle of a person’s living.

 

I discovered that in every town the stories wait, like seeds beneath the concrete. They wait within the receptionist who sailed alone across the Black Sea, within the store manager who raised his two sisters after their mother died, within the well-dressed grandmother who spent her youth stealing horses in Saskatchewan. Lower me down into a seemingly empty, colorless place – a fast-food restaurant, a warehouse chain store, a gray office cubicle – and I will excavate a story that will break your heart, a true story that will bust your sides with laughter or unlock all that’s bound up in you, a story that will aim you like the North Star toward whatever is true and right. Give me a few hours of your time and I will mirror back a story from your life that will fill you with self-compassion. There’s no need to make anything up, no need for fiction. The truth waits to be told, but few know how to catch it. And fewer still know how to tell it.”

 

There is a 45-minute interview at Hearth Community on August 9, 2022 titled Anne Lamott Interviews Mark Yaconelli About His Newest Book.

 

Images of a fireside storyteller and lady catching a ball came from OpenClipArt.