Tuesday, October 7, 2025

Surrounded by bad books from Thomas Erikson

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Back on February 4, 2020 I blogged about how The Toastmasters Pathways Level 2 project on Understanding Your Communication Style says there are four communication styles. Where did they come from? In that post I discussed the DISC model from William Moulton Marston (Dominance – Influence – Steadiness – Compliance). I mentioned that a popular Swedish book from 2018 by Thomas Erikson, titled Surrounded by Idiots had restated those four categories as colors. Now there is a new 2025, fully revised and expanded edition of that bookSurrounded by Idiots: The four types of human behavior and how to effectively communicate with each in business (and in life). There is a preview at Google Books. He very briefly mentions the DISC model. But finally on pages 333 to 335 there is a short reflection on its history.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On page 37 of the book (and a color version at the inside front cover) there is a four-column table with Different Characteristics per Color, as shown above. The second row has wording for DISC, but there is no explanatory column at the left. Then, on pages 38 to 40, there is another excruciatingly long table listing Characteristic Traits with thirty rows that does include an explanatory column.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And on page 100 there is a 2x2 table (as shown above) with those four types. [He didn’t show the words for DISC, but I have added them].

 



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Also, in Chapter 22 beginning on page 251 Thomas discussed The Most Common Combinations of two colors, as I have shown above in another table.

 

The book jacket claims that:

 

“Thomas Erikson is a Swedish behaviorist and the bestselling author of the Surrounded By books, a series about human behavior and communication. The series, including Surrounded by Idiots, has sold more than ten million copies in 70 languages.”  

 

A half-dozen other books in the series are (in chronological order):

 

2020

Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to protect yourself from being manipulated and exploited inbusiness (and in life)

 

2021

Surrounded by Bad Bosses (and Lazy Employees): How to stop struggling, start succeeding,and deal with idiots at work

 

2021

Surrounded by Setbacks: Turning obstacles into success (when everything goes to hell)

 

2022

Surrounded by Narcissists: How to effectively recognize, avoid, and defend yourselfagainst toxic people (and not lose your mind)

 

2023

Surrounded by Energy Vampires: How to slay the time, joy, and soul suckers in your life

 

2024

Surrounded by Liars: How to stop half-truths, deception, and gaslighting from ruining yourlife

 

A post at Reddit pointedly asked Has it occurred to Thomas that he might be the problem?

 

Thomas did not bother to add information from his other books to his latest revised one about Idiots. I found at the public library and skimmed all his others except the Energy Vampires one. Here are excerpts from some of them.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Page 54 of the Psychopaths book has a better 2x2 table (as shown above) with those four DISC types.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And pages 78 and 79 of his Setbacks book has a better table with a description of the four colors (as shown above). Thomas did not bother to repeat those two improved graphics in the revised Idiots book.   

 

Similarly, there is a better Description of DISC on pages 82 and 83 of Surrounded by Psychopaths:

 

The DISC Model

 

Not everything in an individual’s behavior can be explained by the DISC model.

 

There are other models that explain behavior, but I use this as the basis because it is simple to digest and teach. There are more parts of the puzzle than the colors to map various behavior patterns.

 

The DISC model is based on thorough studies and is used throughout the world. It has been translated into more than fifty different languages.

 

Historically, there are similar views in different cultures – for example the four humors described by Hippocrates, who lived in Greece about 2,500 years ago.

 

About 80 percent of all people have a combination of two colors that dominate their behavior. Approximately 5 percent have only one color that dominates behavior. The others [15 percent] are dominated by three colors.

 

Entirely Green behavior, or Green in combination with one other color, is the most common. The least common is entirely Red behavior, or Red in combination with one other color.

 

There may be differences between the sexes, but I do not deal with the gender perspective in this book.

 

The DISC model does not work for analysing people with ADHD, Asperger’s borderline personality disorder, or other disorders.

 

There are always exceptions to what I claim in this book. People are complex – even Red people can be humble, and Yellows can listen attentively. There are Green people who deal with conflict because they have learned what to do, and many Blues understand when it’s time to stop fact-checking. Problems in communication arise when people lack self-awareness.

 

My own colors are Red and Blue and a bit of Yellow. No Green to speak of. Sorry.”

 

An article edited by Lotten Kalenius from the Swedish Skeptics Association (VoF) on April 15, 2024 is titled One of Sweden’s biggest scientific bluffs which discusses the book and Thomas Erikson. It has a section titled Is Erikson an authority in behavioural science? When he was looked up:  

 

“So, we used Ladok, the register of everyone who has studied at Swedish colleges and university, to see if we could find the courses taken by Erikson. There was no-one with his name and birthdate registered. In fact, Erikson’s professional background is in sales, first for the bank Nordea and then running his own business training salespeople. It is most likely that his only educational background is, at best, the Swedish equivalent of a high school diploma.”   

 

Lotten noted that Erikson was named Fraudster of the Year in 2018 by VoF and also added:

 

“He has as much right as my poodle to call himself a behavioural scientist.”

 

Erikson is quite glib as illustrated in a 12-minute YouTube video titled Red behavioural profile DISC | Dominant people | Surrounded by Idiots. But what he mostly says is Ipse Dixit – dogmatic expressions of opinion asserted without proof. I will ignore all of it. Think carefully before you accept any of it.

 

A jester statue was adapted from one at Wikimedia Commons.

 

 

Monday, October 6, 2025

How the busiest people find joy


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There is a thoughtful article by Leslie A. Perlow, Sari Mentser, and Salvatore J. Affinito in the July-August 2025 issue of the Harvard Business Review on pages 135 to 139 titled How the Busiest People Find Joy: Five research backed strategies. You can download it here as a 15-page pdf. Those strategies are to:

 

1) Engage with others

2) Avoid passive pursuits

3) Follow your passion

4) Diversify your activities

5)Protect the time

 

Under 1) they say:

 

“According to the research behind the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which tracked hundreds of men for more than 75 years, the most powerful predictor of life satisfaction is strong, meaningful relationships with accepting, supportive people. Whether it’s the comfort of family bonds or the camaraderie of friendships, these connections anchor people and provide a sense of belonging.”

 

A clapping woman was adapted from this cartoon at OpenClipArt.

 

Sunday, October 5, 2025

About a fifth of American adults with a very high fear of public speaking may not benefit from Toastmasters


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

People commonly advise those with a fear of public speaking to join a Toastmasters International club in order to get over it. But those with a very high level of fear (a severe anxiety level) might not benefit, and will drop out quickly.

 

There is an excellent 14-minute YouTube video by Dr. Cheryl Mathews at SpeakCalmHQ on November 25, 2024 titled DO NOT Go To Toastmasters If This Applies To You. She says you instead will need gradual desensitization exercises.

 

And she suggests you take a public speaking anxiety test first. Back on December 5, 2009 I blogged about it in a post titled Do you have a high level of anxiety about public speaking?

 

The 2024 Chapman Survey of American Fears looked at four levels of fear for public speaking. 11.9% were Very Afraid, 17.2% were Afraid, 36.6% were Slightly Afraid, and 34.3% were Not Afraid. The fraction who are very afraid is 11.9/65.7 = 0.181 or less than one in five. This fraction is as follows for all ten surveys, based on data in my June 1, 2025 blog post:

 

2014     0.142

2015     0.190

2016     0.151

2017     0.171

2018     0.180

2019     0.200

2020/1  0.186

2022     0.202

2023     0.160

2024     0.181  

Mean    0.176

 

The cartoon of a scared man was adapted from this one at OpenClipArt.

 

 

Saturday, October 4, 2025

Boil your strategy down to just one clear visualization


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In the July-August 2025 issue of the Harvard Business Review, on pages 98 to 107, I found a useful ten-page article by Joao Cotter Salvado and Freek Vermeulen titled You Should Be Able to Boil Your Strategy Down to a Single Clear Visualization. It is referenced here, and an excellent graphic from it is shown here. The description for that graphic says that:

 

“Our research into the best way to communicate strategies reveals five key design principles, which can be seen in this visualization about the bank Capitec. It clearly illustrates the bank’s plan to build a network of accessible, user-friendly branches to deliver a value proposition of banking services that are simple, unintimidating, and affordable for low-income customers opening their first bank accounts.

 

1]  Group your ideas into three or four main concepts that form the base of your model.

 

2]  Within those concepts, add layers of detail that describe their concrete implications and how to implement the strategy.

 

3]  Use color and shading, but judiciously – only to distinguish layers.

 

4]  Indicate clear relationships among the elements – for instance, with connecting lines and arrows that delineate flows.  

 

5]  Make your framework easier for viewers to process by organizing it horizontally.

 

To read the full article you can look at the Business Source Premier database in EBSCOhost over at your friendly local public library. But you can also find a slightly different version in another article with the same title from June 24, 2025 by Joao Cotter Salvado.

 

Friday, October 3, 2025

An interesting book about how you first write a sentence


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Joe Moran is a professor of English and Cultural History at Liverpool John Moores University. In 2018 he published an interesting and very usefu book titled First You Write a Sentence: The elements of reading, writing … and life. His chapter titles and subtitles are:

 

1]  A Pedant’s Apology

Or why I wrote this book

2]  The Ape That Writes Sentences

Or why word order is (almost) everything 

3]  Nouns versus Verbs

Or how to bring a sentence to life, but not too much

4]  Nothing Like a Windowpane

Or how to say wondrous things with plain words 

5]  The High-wire Act

Or how to write long and legato without running out of breath

6]  Foolish Like a Trout

Or how to join sentences together with invisible thread 

7]  A Small Good Thing

Or why a sentence should be a gift to the world

On Page 5 he explains that:

“A sentence is a small, sealed vessel for holding meaning. It delivers some news – an assertion, command or question – about the world. Every sentence needs a subject, which is a noun or noun phrase, and a predicate, which is just the bit of the sentence that isn’t the subject and that must have a main verb. The subject is usually (but not always) what the sentence is about and the predicate is usually (but not always) what happens to the subject or what is. This {subject} is a sentence {predicate}. A sentence must have a subject and a main verb, except when it leaves out one or both of them because their presence is implied. OK?” 

On pages 211 and 212 he has pithy advice in Twenty Sentences on Sentences:

 1) Listen, read and write for the sentences, because the sentence must be got right or nothing will be right. 

 2) A sentence is not about self-expression but about editing your thoughts into a partly feigned fluency, building a ladder of words up to a better self.

 3) Train your ears, for how a sentence sounds in the head is also what it says to the heart. 

 4) The bones of a sentence are just a noun and a verb, so put the right nouns and verbs in the right slots and the other words fall into place around them.

 5) Good prose is not a windowpane: a sentence reads best when the writer has tasted and relished the words, not tried to make them invisible. 

 6) Your sentences should mimic the naturalness of speech, so long as you remember that speech is not really natural and that writing is not really like speech.

 7) Short words are best, for their clarity and chewy vowels, but the odd long word in a sentence draws just the right amount of attention to itself. 

 8) Verbal economy in a sentence is a virtue but an overprized one: words are precious but they need to be spent.

 9) Learn to love the full stop, and think of it as the goal toward which your words adamantly move – because a good sentence, like a good life, needs a good death. 

10) If you keep the phrases short, and leave the longest phrase until last, the reader can cut a long sentence up into pieces in her head and swallow them whole.

11) Your sentences should sound slightly more naïve than you are, for good writing is done with a cold eye but an open heart, and it is better to be always clear than always right. 

12) The reader can live with more repetition – of both words and syntax – than you think, and these echoes within and between your sentences shed light on what you mean to say.

13) Vary the length of your sentences, and your words will be filled with life and music. 

14) Because sentences have to live alongside each other, not all of them can dazzle the reader with their brilliance.

15) You can change the whole tone of a sentence by moving it from the end of a paragraph to the start of a new one, and vice versa. 

16) Shorten your paragraphs: white space between sentences never fails to be welcoming.

17) A paragraph is not a single topic hammered home with proofs, but a rhythm made by the sentences rubbing up against each other, a rhythm which is itself the argument. 

18) A reader needs no chaperone: signposting should be invisible and the sentences cohere through suggestive arrangement, not coercive connection.

19) Voice is the holding energy that glues sentences together, the elusive elixir of coherence that gives whatever it is you want to say a home.

20) A sentence is a gift from writer to reader, one that should never have to be bought – with boredom, confusion, the duty to admire the giver, or anything else. 

Cartoon images of a head and heart came from OpenClipArt.

  

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

Don’t just bring an empty plate when you are invited for dinner


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There is a humorous blog post by Laurie Smale on September 22, 2025 titled Magic Minute Quirky Aussie Custom. He begins by stating an idiom:

 

“Just about every Australian newcomer I’ve met has been thrown by the perplexing Aussie request to ‘bring a plate’ when invited to an informal gathering among friends.”

There is an explanation at the Australian National University web page containing Bring a Plate in Meanings and origins of Australian words and idioms:

 

An invitation to bring a plate of food to share at a social gathering or fundraiser. There are many stories of new arrivals in Australia being bamboozled by the instruction to bring a plate. As the locals know, a plate alone will not do. In earlier days the request was often ladies a plate, sometimes followed by gentlemen a donation. First recorded in the 1920s.

 

And the Wikipedia page for a potluck says that:

 

“Other names for a ‘potluck’ include: potluck dinner, pitch-in, shared lunch, spread, faith supper, carry-in dinner, covered-dish-supper, fuddle, Jacob's Join, bring a plate, pot-providence and fellowship meal.”

 

Carrie Newcomer has an August 28, 2023 YouTube video of her song Potluck.

 

A related idiom is discussed by Martha Barnett at A Way with Words on June 14, 2013 in an article titled Ring the doorbell with your elbow. Why your elbow? Because both your hands are full!

 

An image of an Alberta potluck came from Wikimedia Commons. 

  

Tuesday, September 30, 2025

What to say when every second counts



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Back on December 3, 2023 I blogged about how Talking on Eggshells by Sam Horn is an interesting and useful book. In researching that post I missed that Sam also had a ChangeThis manifesto on September 20, 2023 titled TICK TALK: What to Say When Every Second Counts. You also can download it as a seven-page pdf.

 

Her seven points are to:

 

1] Address time up front.

2] Relieve their anxiety

3] Ask yourself, ‘Why will they resist?’

4] Get their eyebrows up with a pithy one-liner and then riff off it.

5] Ask for advice.

6] Introduce something recent and intriguing.

7] Share what’s rare.  

 

She has an issue of her Tick Talk – The Better Newsletter #43 on July 25, 2024 with a useful infographic. And there also is a two-minute YouTube video titled TickTalk The Clock Starts Ticking the Second We Start Talking.

 

An image of a stopwatch was modified from this one at OpenClipArt.