Tuesday, September 2, 2014
The parody by Weird Al Yankovic of of Robin Thicke’s popular song Blurred Lines is hilarious.
When you look around online, you can find people who meant to say public speaking instead referring to pubic speaking. At Cambridge there was an announcement for a Women’s Pubic Speaking Workshop. There is a Facebook community on Fear of pubic speaking. I also found a Facebook listing for an Independent Conslutant.
Monday, September 1, 2014
Even four decades ago the U.S. government was so big the left hand didn’t know what the right foot was doing
Here is a story about when I was a medic in the Air Force Reserve. All aircrew were supposed to have their footprints on file for post-crash identification purposes. The old way of taking footprints involved rolling printer’s ink onto a glass plate, carefully inking each foot, and then pressing the front two-thirds down onto an 8-1/2” x 11” card. The Air Force had tried a newer way that didn’t use that messy ink, but the prints didn’t store well and thus were useless. We were ordered to go back to the old way. When people got their annual flight physical, they got their foot prints taken again.
As soon as I once got assigned that smelly job, I tried to find instructions on how to get the amount of ink on the glass plate consistently correct. The Medical Airrmans Manual just had some weasel words - that you would figure it out after a few tries. Whoever wrote it didn’t really know how.
In a catalog from the Government Printing Office, I found out that the U. S. Secret Service had a 12-page pamphlet issued in 1972 called A Guide to Taking Palm Prints. I ordered a copy. They said to put a piece of white paper underneath the glass plate, and to roll the ink out until you could barely see the paper. Their method worked every time.
Apparently it never occurred to the Air Force that the Secret Service might know more than they did about how to efficiently take prints.
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Back on July 1st the SmartGuy.com web site had an article titled Fear of Public Speaking: Our #1 Fear is Talking to Someone Else that began with the nonsensical claim that:
“Every year, the survey engines around America release the ten biggest fears list, and at the top of the list, every single year, is Fear Of Public Speaking. Death is number two or three most of the time.”
Obviously they never saw the 2001 (and 1998) Gallup Polls reported with the title Snakes Top List of Americans’ Fears.
But, SmartGuy.com's article title got me thinking about talking to ourselves (self-talk) versus talking with other people. That isn’t on Top Ten fear lists, because the question isn’t being asked in surveys.
Negative self talk clearly is a problem. In a July 2013 blog post at Life Practice for Schools Gaynor Dawson described it as being:
“...like having a poison parrot in your head, which just won’t shut up.”
The negative self-talk problem appears in blog posts and articles about public speaking. At No Freaking Speaking Matt Abraham discussed Be Kind To Yourself: Managing Your Self-Talk and Fear Stories To Reduce Speaking Anxiety. Sandra Zimmer wrote at length about Self-Talk: What You Say to Yourself Determines Your Experience.
There also are brief discussions at medical web sites like Turn Down Negative Self-Talk at Web MD, and Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress at the Mayo Clinic. Down in Australia at the Center for Clinical Interventions there is a detailed nine-module course on Improving Self-Esteem.
The image of a Blue-eyed cockatoo came from Christian Paul Stobbe on Wikimedia Commons.
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Right now I’m enjoying watching the Every Simpsons Ever cable TV ultra-marathon that will include all 552 episode which have appeared over the last 25 years. NPR’s Fresh Air Weekend has an article about it. There are three things can we learn about storytelling from The Simpsons.
Say something new
For the opening of each episode Bart writes something different on the blackboard in the schoolroom, and the couch gag (where the whole family gathers in the living room) is new.
In Homer Defined he averts meltdowns at two nuclear plants just by dumb luck and gets his name in the dictionary.
In Lisa the Iconoclast two brand new words appeared, embiggen and cromulent. Sprinfield’s town motto is Jebediah Springfield’s statement that:
"A noble spirit embiggens the smallest man."
Don’t be afraid to tell stories on more than one level
In A Streetcar Named Marge there is a subplot where Maggie is sent to a strict day care center whose director confiscates all the pacifiers, and puts here alone in a play pen. Maggie retrieves the pacifiers from a locker in a sequence that can be enjoyed just as an elaborate sight gag. But, her solitary confinement quotes from Steve McQueen’s role in the World War II prisoner of war film The Great Escape (including the theme music).
One couch gag has the family in cowboy hats, and then the couch drops below the floor revealing they are above the clouds. Then it falls toward the ground. That’s funny as is, but also is a movie reference to the scene in Dr. Strangelove where the pilot, Major Kong, rides a hydrogen bomb like a bucking bronco.
What should we avoid?
Don’t try to cram in too much information. Every 22-minute episode contains way more material than is in an 18-minute TED talk.
Friday, August 22, 2014
Yesterday evening I was watching The Simpsons cartoon ultra-marathon on cable TV. During commercials I flipped channels to see what else was on. At Fox News Greg Gutfeld was filling in for Bill O’Reilly and wearing his reading glasses sometimes, like he does as one of the hosts on The Five.
Back on October 22, 2009 on the Get in Front Communications blog Susan Young discussed 99 Ways to Improve Your Communication. Her way #69 is to:
“Avoid keeping your reading glasses on and ‘looking down your nose’ when speaking to others.”
More recently Matt Christian tweeted that:
“When Greg Gutfeld has his reading glasses on, he looks like Geppetto if he’d made a RealDoll.”
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
There have been two recent surveys about social fears that rank which situations about business networking people find scary. I blogged about one on U.S. adults reported in a 2008 magazine article by Ruscio et al. Also, I blogged about another on adults in both developed and developing countries in a 2010 magazine article.
A bar chart shown above lists the fears ranked from most common to least common. (Click on it to see a larger, clearer version). For both (US adults) and [adults in 9 developed countries] they come in the same order:
Public speaking/performance (21.2%) [13.0%]
Speaking up in meeting/class (19.5%) [12.5%]
Meeting new people (16.8%) [8.8%]
Talking to people in authority (14.7%) [8.6%]
Talking with strangers (13.1%) [6.9%]
Entering an occupied room (11.9%) [6.7%]
For developing countries the order is slightly different. Both articles also list phobias.
Giving an elevator speech is one kind of speaking up in a meeting. It is the second most common fear, after public speaking/performance. Yet, it is something that is expected when you attend networking events. Thus it calls for lots of your attention.
Starting in late April on his No Sweat Public Speaking web site Fred E. Miller discussed how to craft an elevator speech. He divided the process into seven floors:
First Floor: Describe who you are.
Second Floor: Describe what you do.
Third Floor: Describe your expertise.
Fourth Floor: Describe why they hire you.
Fifth Floor: Your WHY (the DNA of your elevator speech).
Sixth Floor: More WHY they hire you.
Seventh Floor: What you deliver (Your Ultimate Selling Proposition)
Fred also mentioned an eighth floor, which is where you ask a person you are talking to one-on-one about what they do.
This post was inspired by a comment in a lengthy discussion on the LinkedIn Public Speaking Network group on the topic of “Is ‘The Fear of Public Speaking’ a misnomer?” Susan RoAne had commented that our greatest fear was not public speaking, but rather was walking into a roomful of strangers. I think she got that from a three-decade old New York Times article that I have blogged about. Last November I had blogged about fears in networking situations, and even emailed her about that post.
The image of an elevator door in Vancouver, Washington came from Wikimedia Commons.
Saturday, August 16, 2014
In October 2012 Diane Windingland blogged about how Transitions in Your Speech Bridge the Gap. In August 2013 Andrew Dlugan blogged about Speech Transitions: Magical Words and Phrases such as:
Norrm Abram used Measure Twice, Cut Once: lessons from a master carpenter as the title for his 1996 book of essays. (One essay is even titled Measure Twice, Cut Once, but Don’t Measure at All if You Can Avoid It. Fitting the last piece of siding in a row on a house is a situation where you are better to just hold it in place and mark it).
For the cat scratcher box I discussed on August 1st, I used butt joints on the sides. I chose to make both visible on the long sides. As shown above, I also could have put them both on the short sides, or one on each side. Or, I could have gotten fancy and cut 45-degree miters on all four corners to almost hide them, like for a picture frame.
By the way, the oldest version of the proverb I could find comes from the Autobiography of Benvenuto Cellini (1500 - 1571), who said to the Pope that:
“It must, most blessed Father, be allowed that in those cases where men are risking all upon one throw, it is not wrong to do as certain poor and simple men are wont to say, who tell us we must mark seven times and cut once.”