Tuesday, June 20, 2017
Avoiding a downward spiral of shame after a speech went badly
The Harvard Business Review has an excellent web article by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries titled Don’t Let Shame Become a Self-Destructive Spiral.
There also was another article by Christine Clapp in the March 2013 issue of Toastmaster magazine titled When bad speeches happen to good people (how to recover from a disappointing presentation) that you can read in a .pdf file at her Spoken With Authority web site. Her advice is to:
Put it in perspective
Analyze what went wrong - and right
Craft a plan
Get back on stage
Consider a coach
Believe in comebacks
Shame (and resilience from it) is a large subject. Social work researcher Brené Brown has studied, written, and spoken about it a lot. In 2013 on the Oprah Winfrey show she gave brief advice on 3 Things you can do to stop a shame spiral. You can also watch her 21-minute TED talk on Listening to Shame, or listen to a long podcast of an episode from On Being about The Courage to Be Vulnerable.
The spiral-staircase image came from Wikimedia Commons.